“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.” – Mark Twain
Children, being children, often don’t appreciate their fathers’ wisdom while it’s being dispensed – even if they have fathers like Jim Anderson and Ward Cleaver. But it’s amazing how cherished that wisdom becomes through the years.
On Father’s Day 2017, Joliet area residents honor their fathers by recalling those wise words.
• Liz Bagley of Channahon – “Always put God first and everything else will fall into place.”
• David Bellah of New Lenox – “You get in more trouble in 15 minutes than you can get out of in a lifetime.”
• Amee Bohrer of Joliet – “When someone has an agenda, they have an agenda, and they don’t lose it,” along with, “I’m always proud of you; some days I’m just more proud than others.”
• Steve Brandy of Joliet – “Never bet your life, you might lose.” (“Yes, my dad said that. I never forgot it!”)
• Jim Chuporak of Joliet – “When I told my dad I was getting married he stated it was about time and laughed. He asked me where she was from, meaning nationality. When I told him she was Polish, he smiled and said, ‘Good, she will take good care of you.’ And she has for almost 25 years.”
• Emily Duncan of Plainfield – “‘You will know that you have become an adult when you realize that instant gratification and happiness are not the same thing.’ Best advice ever.”
• Sandy Gerrettie of Joliet – “You’ve got this Sandy... don’t ever give up.”
• Pam Heavens of Joliet – “Through his actions and words, my dad taught – and continues to teach me – that patience and a good sense of humor are necessary partners in our journey called life. Address each new challenge individually. Laugh as much as possible, for laughter is truly the best medicine.”
• Suzanna Ibarra of Joliet – “I think the best advice he gave me was to pick your battles. Can’t be mad about everything. And can’t roll over and give in on everything either. And patience – he taught me patience and love.”
• Kristen Biksacky Koppers of Channahon – "My dad passed 5 years ago from cancer but he always instilled hard work in his children. My dad believed in respect to adults no matter the situation."
• Timothy S. Kump – “I told this story to my father: When I was around 12, you were pitching to me in the front yard and you weren’t throwing the balls over the plate. I yelled to you to throw the balls over the plate so I could hit them. You yelled back that I should ‘learn to hit the bad pitches.’ You said that would surprise the other team and I’d get a hit. That became a simple, yet profound lesson that I have used throughout my entire life. That experience taught me to try to seize every opportunity, especially situations that seemed negative.”
• Janet Palkon of Joliet – “Marriage won’t always be easy. You are marrying a Cubs fan. But as long as he treats you good and you raise your kids as Sox fans everything will be just fine.”
• Karen Robertson of Joliet – “It wasn’t so much what he said, although he always said to surround yourself with good people – but more of what he did – persevered in times of economic uncertainty, always gave back to community with times, talents and finances (often anonymously). Knowing he had my back makes me a better person.”
• Stephen T. Saporta of Joliet – On athletic competition: “I know your mother has always told you that you can be better than anyone else if you apply yourself. You can get straight As, you can do whatever it is you want to do. Let me ask you something. If you dedicated yourself to weight lifting, do you think you could lift more than anyone else on earth? The truth is, there will always be people out there with greater and lesser talent than you possess. But ‘talent’ is not the end of the story. Do your best. If you do the best you can, you’ll have nothing to be sorry for when it is all said and done. If you win, shake the man’s hand and thank him for a good game. If you lose, do the same thing. At least you’ll know you lost to a superior opponent, which is something over which you had no control. And hopefully, you will have studied his game during your match and learned something along the way.”
• Jan Steele of Joliet: – “He said not everyone would like me no matter how hard I tried (so basically, get over it) and whatever amount of money I made it would never be enough... He was one of the nicest, kindest and most honest men I ever knew.”